I understand you think I’m a bad mother…

September 19, 2016

I see you there, looking at me. I know what you’re thinking. I’ve heard it all before. 

If I leave her in the car, you will call the police and call me a bad mother. If I take her into the store, you will scoff as she throws a tantrum because she’s tired. If I give her candy bar so she stops making a scene, you will say, “She has no discipline! Look at this mother giving into her tantrum.”

If I breastfeed my child, you will ask me to cover-up or hideaway in the bathroom.  Maybe you will say it’s actually for me or disgusting, if my child strikes you as too old for nursing. If I give my baby formula after I failed to breastfeed because I can’t pump enough at work without upsetting my coworkers, you will say how sad it is that my child does not have the benefits of the breast milk.  

If I cosleep with my baby, you will say I am risking my baby’s life or uneducated. If I let my baby sleep in a crib, you will say I am a distant and unfeeling, cold mother.

If I let her play with my make-up, you will say that I’m allowing the sexualization of my child. If I don’t let her play with make-up, you will say that I’m sheltering her. 

If I teach her my values and share my faith with her, you will say I’m brainwashing her. If I don’t share my values or faith with her, you’ll say I’m failing to instill a moral fabric in her life. 

If I follow her around and play with her at the park, you will say I am a hovering, neurotic parent. If I sit on the sidelines and dare to glance at my phone, you will say I’m a disinterested, neglectful mother.

If I have a homebirth, you will say I am a naive and selfish mother. If I have a C-section, you will say that I didn’t try hard enough, that I wasn’t strong enough for my baby.

If I get a job and send my kids to daycare, you will say, “Oh, her poor children being raised by someone else!”

 If I stay at home with my children, you will say I am a useless, lazy, financial leech. 

If I take care of my appearance, you will say I’m vain. If I sport athletic wear and a ponytail, you will say I’m a slob who has let herself go. 

 If I have more children then you deem fit, you will say I’m irresponsible and can’t possibly handle it all. If I only have one child, you will say how unlucky it is for my child to have no siblings – you have no idea if I can even have another baby, and yet, you will say this. 

If I send my kids to public school you will judge and wonder why I haven’t paid for private. If I homeschool my kids, you will say I’m not letting my children live in the real world. 

Here’s, something for you to consider. You cannot see love or sacrifice or struggle. You cannot always see stress or insecurity or sadness. You cannot see isolation. I guarantee you, if she is a mother, she has felt all of these at least once.

 What you can do is offer a smile, a compliment, a hand, a prayer. I challenge you to do so, today and everyday, because she’s human. That mother of those monsters sweats and bleeds just like you. I know. She is me. #iamher

#16 Priestly Celibacy and your REAL questions! Lonely? Unnatural? Biblical? Find out!

August 14, 2016

ThisCatholicLife#16 This Catholic Life Podcast:
Priestly Celibacy and your REAL questions!
Is priestly celibacy biblical? Isn’t it just to keep priests from leaving their money to their children? Is it unnatural? Doesn’t it get lonely? Find out as we talk with and ask a priest.




August 1, 2016


Big Book Bundle Giveaway
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I’m so excited to announce a collaborative giveaway of a collection of books from Fr. Gaitley. I have personally used his books and particularly like Consoling the Heart of Jesus! The winner will receive Consoling the Heart of Jesus, 33 Days to Morning Glory, and The One Thing is Three. Be sure to enter to win! What do you have to lose, other than an awesome book bundle?! Many thanks to my collaborative ladies: yellowpelican.net, notsoformulaic.com, and faithandfabricdesign.com!

Be sure to check out the THIS CATHOLIC LIFE podcast, found on iTunes and Stitcher, a podcast hosted by Rosalie Contrite of ContriteCatholic.com.


17 signs you need a swift kick in the spiritual @&#

June 27, 2016

In honor of St JoseMaria Escriva, on his Feast Day June 26.
(He would totally hate me doing a post “in his honor”.)
Every now and then, I get complacent. I tell myself, “I’m not an atheist anymore. I’m not a heathen anymore. I’m one of the good guys.”

This is really a lie. We are never done converting. We are never done striving for holiness, and we are not saints, until we are with Him, eternally. Until then, we are fighting the good fight, and we must never forget, it is a lifelong fight and journey. They don’t call us the church militant for nothing!

I came across this list of signs that one is lacking humility, by St Josemaria Escriva, a favorite saint of mine. No one delivers a spiritual @$# kicking quite like my beloved St Josemaria. Consider these each, as you read them. Humbling does not even begin to describe the effect these had one me! Pride might just be the root of all evil. See what hold it has on you, in the following list.

Allow me to remind you that among other evident signs of a lack of humility are:

  1. Thinking that what you do or say is better than what others do or say
  2. Always wanting to get your own way
  3. Arguing when you are not right or — when you are — insisting stubbornly or with bad manners
  4. Giving your opinion without being asked for it, when charity does not demand you to do so
  5. Despising the point of view of others
  6. Not being aware that all the gifts and qualities you have are on loan
  7. Not acknowledging that you are unworthy of all honor or esteem, even the ground you are treading on or the things you own
  8. Mentioning yourself as an example in conversation
  9. Speaking badly about yourself, so that they may form a good opinion of you, or contradict you
  10. Making excuses when rebuked
  11. Hiding some humiliating faults from your director, so that he may not lose the good opinion he has of you
  12. Hearing praise with satisfaction, or being glad that others have spoken well of you
  13. Being hurt that others are held in greater esteem than you
  14. Refusing to carry out menial tasks
  15. Seeking or wanting to be singled out
  16. Letting drop words of self-praise in conversation, or words that might show your honesty, your wit or skill, your professional prestige…
  17. Being ashamed of not having certain possessions…

Saint Josemaria Escriva, pray for us, and knock us down a peg!